Path of Healing

Pain and suffering cause us to investigate solutions.

Right solutions can profoundly change our lives for the better and alleviate our pain. They exist across a broad spectrum, on every level—physically, mentally and emotionally, and even spiritually.

Yet, there is a final stage of healing as important as the solution—the regression.

A regression will very likely be visited on us in the mid-term aftermath of any major intervention that resulted in major life change.

Its job is to take you “back” to the place you were before the intervention to see if anything remains unhealed.

During this time, you might make a “mistake” you swore you would never make again.

This is a highly precious opportunity for you to meet the issue you were grappling with previously, with your renewed level of awareness to reaffirm whatever the new learning is.

This temporary setback, as upsetting as it may be, is temporary. The educational dividends it will pay, far outweigh reliving the pain.

Steps forward, steps back. Steps forward, Steps back. That’s how it goes.

Rescuing Others

One of the greatest dangers a lifeguard faces while rescuing a drowning person is the very real possibility of drowning him or herself.

Environmental factors not withstanding, the danger to the lifeguard is the drowning person, despite their vulnerable and weak state.

It’s somebody’s vulnerable and weak state that triggers our rescue/helping instinct and, if we are not careful, that can lead to our downfall.

The drowning person is in a state of shock and panic. If the lifeguard does not follow the proper procedures, he or she can easily be pulled under water by the drowning person who is being ruled by the chaotic, potentially dangerous survival instinct.

There are two important lessons here.

Number one: our attempts to rescue will backfire if they are not grounded by commonsense and training. Number two: difficult though it is, at times, we must leave others to suffer the pain of their fate.

If we lack the proper skills and know the building is seconds away from collapsing, you are wise to leave the dog who is stuck in the basement, lest you lose your own life.

Fortunately, we have no way of knowing what is truly bad or what is truly good—especially when it comes to the fates of others.

All One

Spiritual practice leads us to self-rule, self-mastery, self-realisation, love, oneness—there are so many names for the destination.

All the names entail some ability to stay in the centre, which means an ability to not get pulled away from ourselves—by thoughts, by circumstances, by people, or by changes of any kind. We literally become who we are by eliminating all that is not who we are, just like the process of making a diamond out of stone.

So achieved, we remain happy and peaceful all the time, without any requirement, and so become able to offer the most noble service to others and the world. That’s the whole point.

As with the ten degrees of a Black Belt in the martial arts, there is a spectrum.

In the early stages, you find yourself requiring far less to maintain your sense of connection to yourself. Less meditation. Less alone time. Less intervention of all types.

You find a certain unchanging, internal stillness that remains in the crowded marketplace, as well as in solitude. Neither environment changes a thing.