No Offense

Personal attacks are rooted in poverty.

They are launched from an ego that seeks a cheap, sugar-like “high” and feeling of superiority from the harm inflicted on the recipient.

There are few greater signs of ignorance than the use of a personal attack—or attack of any kind, not just the overtly violent kind.

Personal attacks never solve the problem they are trying to solve. In most cases, all they do is inspire retribution and further cycles of pain and violence.

You know you are coming along not only because you attack less but because you lose the ability to feel attacked.

Spiritual practice helps to dissolve your personal sense of self, which further helps you to become lighter — less dense — and so not as entangled with the material reality you can see, touch, and hear.

An enlightened mind, in the presence of a personal attack or negative judgment, listens to it first and foremost.

“You are the most selfish, irresponsible person I know.”

As the saint was once a sinner, he or she will be able to find truth in this statement.

The enlightened mind understands that being the most selfish, irresponsible person is needed for a time (how else to learn selflessness and responsibility?)—it does not recognize fault in the judgment because it sees no essential difference between fault and virtue. Both have important roles to play.

As such, the enlightened mind cannot become offended. Instead, it transmutes the negativity of the attack and reflects understanding back to the attacker, which is not only disarming but also has the power to create a life-changing transformation.

It’s not even enlightened. It’s commonsense.

Small Becomes Big

In the beginning, relatively small healing movements have big outcomes.

For example, you might decide to become a vegetarian, stop eating refined foods, or conduct a fasting regimen. These are not demanding changes to make, yet they all have powerful, purgative effects.

If you’ve been eating sugar your entire life and suddenly remove it from your diet—you might be surprised how bad you will feel, you might get sick, and you might realize what an addictive substance it is (and how difficult it is to live without).

Perhaps you then move onto meditation. Attempting to sit for just five minutes in total silence can be a monumental task, as you combat technology’s pernicious effects on your ability to concentrate, a never-ending to-do list, and a culture that celebrates keeping busy at all times.

With the more cursory causes of disease and ignorance getting under control, you move onto deeper healing work and the more subtle causes, such as inter-generational trauma, energetic blueprinting, and harmful psychological tendencies (towards choosing wrong diet, wrong relationship, and wrong work for the wrong reasons).

At this point, a certain level of peace and equanimity has been achieved, the daily struggle has been minimized, and you mostly see the world with clean eyes. The residue that remains can be likened to small spots on an otherwise glowing white sheet of paper, whereas before, there was no white to be found.

Starting to chisel away at these final layers of toxicity — though they are the minutest and hardest to see — creates an avalanche-like effect, similar to when you started off with basic fasting, basic meditation, and other similar practices. In fact, as these layers begin to dissolve, they might disable and/or incapacitate you for a prolonged period of time.

What you are being prepared for, like any elite athlete, is the last few inches of the climb, which will make all the other work seem like child’s play.

With your trauma, blueprinting, and harmful tendencies cleansed, you now start to chisel away at the “I” thought itself.

But that’s a story for another day.

Welcome the Mess

If you consider that the life-force power of the universe (you), is contained within this bony, fleshy structure that is the human body, you might reasonably conclude that our situation is something less than ideal, as if having the engine of a Ferrari housed within a Pinto.

It hurts and is exceedingly awkward to be squeezed into something so limiting, so vulnerable, and so prone to injury—something that will, inevitably, perish.

What if your life was not meant to be easy? What if your life was, by design, intended to challenge you in the most difficult way possible (according to your tolerance)?

What if we could remember that what we learn through challenge is eternal and what we attempt to gain through comfort is temporary—and, even, an inhibitor to what we can learn.

Why do we want to learn—why do we want to be human, with all of its messes, frailties, and turmoil? Because learning is connected with freedom. We all intuitively know this.

There are many forms of freedom. Ultimately, it is freedom from the swings of pleasure and pain that we wish to gain because with that kind of freedom, comes persistent bliss.

Being human is the bridge between ignorance and knowledge.

Welcome the mess.

Welcome the challenge.

Welcome the unmet expectation.

All have been sent as a gift from beyond.