Merge With the Moment

Inner freedom is the permanent and irreversible end to separation.

It is achieved through the gradual lessening of the “I” thought.

The “I” thought is what keeps us separate, afraid, and in competition to survive.

When I believe in “I,” there is a me and there is everything else. I am bound to my experience.

Life revolves around my happiness, my problems, my future, my past, my wishes, and my wants. Effort and willpower gets involved to manage these things and those like them. Effort to cultivate happiness, solve problems, create the future, fix the past, realize dreams, and so on.

It is the effort, we think, required to feel free. Unfortunately, further separation is the result.

We tend to think that “something else” is required. Something needs to be added. Something needs to be subtracted. We tend to think that we know what is best for us.

The reality is: what is best for us, is happening right now because nothing else can be happening.

Can you find the gift in your present situation? What are you learning? Can you see what invitations are being handed to you to open doors that were previously shut?

Sometimes the present moment tastes bitter. It is not to our liking. We feel it needs to change (and it very well might need to).

Can we remember to relax? To stop kicking and screaming? Can we drop our shoulders and merge with the moment?

To merge with the moment means to let go of the “I” thought, which really means to stop thinking about it. Quit — literally — analyzing, making plans, and trying to figure things out. Things are already figured out.

Your job is to live the moment. Embrace it. Learn from it. Let it move through you.

That is how you merge, and that is how you get free.

See the Gift

When summer changes to fall, would you say that summer has ended?

On one level, yes. It is no longer as sunny, or warm, and the kids come home from camp ready for a new school year. It feels different.

On another level, no. It is just a matter of time before summer “begins” anew again.

Things change form and cycles come to relative completion, even as new ones take their place. That’s what we typically call an “ending.”

There can be pain associated with things changing form and cycles coming to relative completion. We tend to reach for the static and concrete, or what is known and has become familiar.

Ultimately, it is pain of our own making, as we are always — always — being given what we are asking for in every moment. If only we knew that with crystal clarity. However, what fun are movies for which you knew the full story in advance?

We must summon the courage to bear every trial that so called endings bring with them. It is not easy to bury a loved one, retire a career, accept injury, or adjust with a new reality taking shape.

What good is it to cling to summer? What good is it to wish it were warmer in fall’s cool breezes?

Suffering, i.e., chronic pain is wishing for things to be different than they are.

What we do then is love everything. The coming and the going. The ending and the beginning. The triumph and the trial.

We start to perceive them as one energy wearing a different costume, depending on the need of our evolution. How much kinder does the world become when we see it constantly providing for us, meeting each and every one of our needs with a type of precision bordering on the level of genius?

We no longer have a reason to complain. All sense of lack and limitation begins to dissolve. Like any great movie or tale, we look forward to what comes next.

We now know whatever it is, is a gift.

The Pain You Don't Feel

The pain you don’t feel, you can’t heal.

For some, this comes as a relief and becomes a deep-rooted strategy and orientation towards life.

Inside they say, “Let me do what I can to bury my pain, so I don’t have to feel it, so I don’t have to do the work of healing it.”

Alcohol. Substances. Fitness regiments. Relationships. Money pursuits. Fame. Political conquest. Domination. Some forms of religion and spirituality even.

All of these things and those like them have the effect of pulling us outside of ourselves and trap us in the win-lose game. We get busy trying to win (or achieve) and avoid loss. So busy that there is no time, until around the time of death, to look within.

The win-lose or happy-sad game, after awhile, becomes intolerable. You sense there is more to life. You sense there is an inner world in need of attention. You tire of all the work for what amounts to a temporary high that comes, stays for awhile, and then goes… leaving you in need of more, perhaps compromising your dignity in the process.

The pain you don’t feel, you can’t heal.

For others, this becomes a mission.

First, to eliminate all the avoidance strategies pulling us outside of ourselves. We understand we must open the inner floodgates to let all that we’ve been bottling up find the light of day and path to exit.

This, similarly, can be an intolerable experience but, like the healthy purging of a toxin doing damage to the system, you know you will be better off on the other side.

We can take comfort in knowing that we are never given more than we can handle on the healing journey, which is the journey of becoming whole, undivided, and pure.

Sometimes we worry, “When is this going to end?” Understandable though this question may be — as nobody wants to live indefinitely in a compromised and vulnerable state — to the sincerest adepts among us, the question is righted by the higher understanding, “This ends, when it ends. In this moment, I am perfect, whole, and complete. Every need brings what is needed. I will not be forsaken.”

We find the resilience to soldier on.

The greater the trial of healing, the greater the reward of self-realization, whose fruits include abiding peace and bliss.

We might wonder, why prefer lesser trials?

Why not go all the way?