I maintain that Truth is a pathless land, and you cannot approach it by any path whatsoever, by any religion, by any sect.
The modern mind likes to think algorithmically and constantly looks for the best steps to take to achieve a desired result.
While necessary and advisable for building bridges, tunnels, and roads, it is a temptation that needs to be put aside as regards your psychological, emotional, and spiritual development.
But browse most books and authors that claim to service such intentions and you are bound to find an unrelenting amount of "how to" and "numerical step" titles, such as, "How to Achieve Your Best Self in 7 All Too Easy Steps."
Tempting, isn't it? Remember: What's tempting is seductive and what's seductive, usually, leads you astray.
That is why you will not find a teacher who is worth their salt ever attempt to break down the process of self-realisation into marketable and easily digestible concepts—and beware of those that do, good intentions notwithstanding.
You might look to humanity's ancient, sacred texts, which you could say were among our first "self-help" books. For the most part, the truth was not shared explicitly but was embedded within story, parable, and allegory. You had to meditate on the passages and glean meaning for yourself.
Your mind can't think its way into a better version of yourself. Additional practices are not required. Additional information is not required.
The most essential ingredient is heartfelt longing. Longing to know the truth. Longing to be free. Longing to nobly serve the world. That longing starts the process of an answer eventually arriving. It puts you on the path.
But, walk a little in this spirit, and you soon find there is no path in the form of something known, measurable, and replicable. Or, rather, there is a path but it is pathless. What unfolds, like a root system for a new tree, is totally organic and unique to you. It is your master key, not the master key for all.
That is why the wise do not explicitly state truth. You are already living in it and wisdom can't be forced upon you. The wise share. They tell stories for the sake of telling stories because something informs them to do so. Not to impress. Not to sell. Not with any external agenda.
At some point along the pathless path, you might have a question. You might pick up a book, listen to a lecture, or sit for satsangh somewhere and you will hear an answer. The answers that most resonate and transform, are those that are shared from this outcome-detached place because they reach the deepest levels of your heart (vs. your brain).
You might even forget the information that was shared but that is no matter. Like an acupuncture needle, the answer has unlocked something and revealed the next bit of path to walk down.
Patience is very important. Patience means not forcing open a locked door you think you need to pass through.
Patience is connected to trust. You trust you will be provided for. You trust the next answer will come. You trust you will get where you want to go, eventually, and with enough merit.
Where patience and trust combine, surrender surely follows.
Surrender means being okay one way or the other, which is, in itself, a kind of freedom.
You are already free, were it not for the thinking that says it's not so.