We're pretty smart.
At the speed of light, we can detect when another carries the same wounds and longing for healing as we do.
Upon recognition of this sameness, we usually have the experience of falling in love.
We see salvation. We see somebody who will understand us. We see somebody who can heal us.
And we pursue this person. But not really the person. More like the mental image we have of them. Really then, we have fallen in love with our own thoughts.
This wanting to be healed by another who shares aspects of our story is something to be hyper vigilant of. It's a primal reaction that happens in an instant. Without awareness, we will blindly follow it.
With awareness, we can recognize when it's happening and make a choice.