We're taught that everything has a reason and that everything is perfect.
While this is true, we also have to realize that the opposite can also be equally true.
People make mistakes and do terrible things to one another, whose lingering effects can span three or four or more generations.
On a certain level, this is not OK.
And truly getting in touch with that — take examples from your own history — is the way we correct the mistake and make sure it doesn't keep repeating down through the generations.
We have to see it for what it is. Yes, it's OK in the grand scheme of things but it caused you great pain, it may have caused your children great pain, may have damaged many of your relationships and kept you from living your life.
At a certain point, you have to put your foot down and say, "This is not OK."
That is when change happens.