Working with reality

Whatever is (according to you) missing or deficient in your life, in simple form, simply shouldn't be there.

Your significant other—wife, husband, etc.

Money.

Clarity.

Ease.

It shouldn't be there because it's not there.

I'm afraid it is that simple. There's just no other option right now.

Another way of looking at it is like this.

Because that something isn't here, you don't actually need it.

This is a more faith-based angle that's harder to accept, especially early on, and especially for those who are suffering.

Yet another way to look at it, perhaps a more interesting way, is like this.

Because that something isn't here, you aren't ready for it.

The fruit isn't ripe.

Maybe if you were to meet your special someone for life now, it wouldn't work out. You both have some business to take care of first.

Maybe if you were to receive a fortune now, you'd spend it recklessly. Your character needs to evolve a little further first.

Maybe if all of life's problems were to miraculosly resolve tomorrow, you wouldn't get the golden message the suffering was trying to convey.

You can fight for what you think is missing and get it but (and you know it), the taste is bitter sweet when you do.

Just like biting in to an unripe fruit.

Sipping tea when it's too hot.

Eating cake right after it comes out of the oven.

It teaches us to prefer what life naturally provides for us.

It teaches us not to want.

In other words, it teaches us to love what we have right now.

Those clothes.

That bed.

That home.

Your location.

All of it.

It's all perfect for you and all you need right now.

Remember Rilke, "Be patient toward all that is unresolved in your heart."

It doesn't need to get any better than this.

You are content now.

This is working with reality.

And we suffer less as a result.