When somebody doesn't like you
Rejection from other.
Exclusion from other.
Doubts from other.
Animosity from other.
Judgment from other.
Bad vibes from other.
When somebody doesn't like you. This is a situation so core to the human experience.
The question is, how do you react?
The better question is, do you react?
Do you exclude, doubt, judge, etc. other in return?
Do you think you have screwed up and try to then change yourself?
Do you apologize?
If you don't know what you are doing, you will take it personal, you will react.
However, if you are a bit more than moderately (doesn't have to be 100%) aware of who you are and what you are doing, you will have a much different experience when you cross paths with somebody who doesn't like you.
(You may even enjoy the experience, as it's interesting.)
You will see this person's reaction to you as something impersonal. Because it is impersonal. 10 minutes, 15 minutes later, a day later, a month later, the person may not have the some reaction, something could change.
If you have legitimately crossed a line and you know it, yes, you will make amends or otherwise try and heal the situation.
Consider your present moment Art of Living to have reached a relatively skillful place if you can let the dislike be there, without reacting, without changing who you are, compensating and so on and still maintain compassion and love for this person who doesn't yet understand where you're coming from.


Christopher Lowman

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