The use of force

There is no use forcing your heart to open up or your Self to show up in situations where it can’t.

Those situations will differ for everybody.

What they have in common is reality—something real will be happening that silences the ego and the mind, i.e., your personality.

A loved one is leaving.

Somebody you know is in the midst of grieving or in pain.

You are receiving a heartfelt gift.

Something real is happening.

If we are identified with our minds and egos, it’s going to feel awkward.

You won’t know what to do in that moment when your source of identity temporarily shuts down.

It could stifle you in to uncomfortable silence.

Or, cause your personality to kick in even more in an effort to eliminate the reality of the moment.

It could cause trying to behavior. You will try to be real. Your reaching out will feel incongruent and off.

These are all various forms of forcing.

These real moments are precious.

There is no use forcing something to open up that can’t right now. This is worry.

What is useful is gently recognizing that you are stuck somewhere.

That recognition is what’s important.

From there, some kind of process of resolution or change can take place.

If that recognition isn’t there yet, it will be. The pain of those moments will one day become unbearable.

You gently recognize and also realize that if the answer were to come today, that would be robbing you of the process of becoming more of who you are.

Which is simply the removal of who you are not.