Fear of personal accountability

Personal accountability is saying what you hear inside to somebody else. And then dealing with what happens next.

Personal accountability is uncensored acting on inner prompting. And then dealing with what happens next.

Personal accountability is doing what you know you need to do. And then dealing with what happens next.

Personal accountability is standing on stage, with all eyes on you. And then dealing with what happens next.

This is scary business because to do so is to risk:

Failure.

Looking dumb.

Rejection.

Getting fired.

Facing the unknown.

And perhaps the most vital...

Being seen for who you truly are.

Turns out you're scared of the authentic you.

But do you know what actually happens when people see you for who you truly are and the unique signature that you carry?

They start to like you.

They want to talk to you.

They want to be in relationship to you.

They want to hug you (or more).

They want to tell others about you.

They want to hang out with you.

Which brings us to the ironies of all ironies. It's really all of this that you're afraid of. The good stuff that you claim to want in your life, the stuff you claim that's being withheld from you.

But do you really want it?

That's the essential question.

If yes, then you have to, must, start doing what feels scary. Whatever that is. Ask a girl out. Leave a dead end job. Take tango lessons. Tell somebody how you actually feel. Speak up in public. Sing. Dance.

You probably know what you need to do. Try just doing it, even if it's only once. Half a percent of progress is better than no progress. Think small.

Treat your fear like a weak muscle. Muscles can be conditioned. So can your fear. The more you do what's scary, the more scary you can tolerate in your life ... just like the more weights you lift, the more weight you can handle.